Ah...that long lasting look. A modest smile. Standing just a bit too close. An accidental brush.
Flirtation is an art. It marks a preliminary stage—in a first meeting or an existing relationship—when interested people look toward a tantalizingly unknown future. We flirt to establish a connection, and to gauge the interest of others in reciprocating that connection. While not all flirting is intentional or done with the aim of establishing a romantic or sexual encounter, it does help us determine the potential for romantic relationships.
However, its not easy! Duh!! Communicating and determining romantic interest in social encounters are often cloaked by uncertainty. Both the message and the interpretation are intentionally vague - it serves to protect the interests of the person and adds an element of suspense that makes the act seem more like a game (now you see why I call it a game!). Flirting captures the interest of the other person and says 'Would you like to play?'" And one of the most heady things about the game is that the normal rules of social interaction are rubberized. Clarity is not at all the point. Well, the key for it is to be a mystery!
Despite this uncertainty, are there ways to perfection? Does a lingering glance mean the same in all encounters? So much of flirting is dependent on non-verbal cues: a glance, a touch, a seemingly casual movement—can these actions really be interpreted differently across cultures and contexts?
Flirtation is a game we play, a dance for which everyone knows the moves. But, its dangerous out there! If you think you can do it responsibly, why not? Go ahead and flirt!!
--- Valentine's Day Special
P.S: Thanks to those 10-12 articles on flirting that I read. Damn :|
Oh and I dont flirt :P
Flirtation is an art. It marks a preliminary stage—in a first meeting or an existing relationship—when interested people look toward a tantalizingly unknown future. We flirt to establish a connection, and to gauge the interest of others in reciprocating that connection. While not all flirting is intentional or done with the aim of establishing a romantic or sexual encounter, it does help us determine the potential for romantic relationships.
However, its not easy! Duh!! Communicating and determining romantic interest in social encounters are often cloaked by uncertainty. Both the message and the interpretation are intentionally vague - it serves to protect the interests of the person and adds an element of suspense that makes the act seem more like a game (now you see why I call it a game!). Flirting captures the interest of the other person and says 'Would you like to play?'" And one of the most heady things about the game is that the normal rules of social interaction are rubberized. Clarity is not at all the point. Well, the key for it is to be a mystery!
Despite this uncertainty, are there ways to perfection? Does a lingering glance mean the same in all encounters? So much of flirting is dependent on non-verbal cues: a glance, a touch, a seemingly casual movement—can these actions really be interpreted differently across cultures and contexts?
Flirtation is a game we play, a dance for which everyone knows the moves. But, its dangerous out there! If you think you can do it responsibly, why not? Go ahead and flirt!!
--- Valentine's Day Special
P.S: Thanks to those 10-12 articles on flirting that I read. Damn :|
Oh and I dont flirt :P
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